Are you doing 1x1s with your team members? And what about 1×1 time with yourself?
LEADERSHIP
1×1 meetings can feel like a chore. Sometimes they drag into complaint sessions; other times, they’re surface level and you wonder why you bothered. Let’s fix that with a simple framework I call PB&J—a recipe for meaningful, productive conversations.
PB&J stands for Personal Perspective, Better ways, and Joy. This formula keeps the focus on both the work and the person behind it.
Here’s how to put it into action:
- Start with connection. Kick off with intentional small talk—ask about their weekend, their favorite hobby, or even their most-hated food (spoiler: it’s probably pickles). These personal details build rapport and pave the way for meaningful discussions. You can learn a lot about someone’s life through small talk (even though it might not be your favorite, it can be helpful.)
- Dive into perspective. Ask about their thoughts and feelings on their work and progress. How are they experiencing their role? What do they think is going well—or not? What challenges do they see coming? Typically a team member can spot problems before they happen, they just need someone to ask.
- Seek improvement. Invite their ideas on better ways to work, improve processes, or tackle challenges. Let them talk, take notes, and do not share your opinions right away. People want to feel heard and empowered. Your opinion is not always needed.
- End on joy. Close the conversation by asking what’s bringing them joy at work and beyond. What do they love doing? Where do they shine? The answers give you insight into their engagement and energy levels.
A PB&J 1×1 isn’t just a meeting—it’s a moment to connect, strategize, and celebrate. Bonus? These insights can help you spot burnout or disengagement early. A joyful, fulfilled team member is a productive one, but if someone’s struggling, you’ll have the chance to step in before it spirals.
I have a PB&J worksheet for 1x1s – if you’d like a copy, hit reply and let me know!
LIFE
The Art of Doing Nothing
For years, I wore “busy” like a badge of honor. If I wasn’t hustling, I felt like I was failing. But recently, I’ve embraced the revolutionary idea of doing nothing—and it’s been life-changing.
Now, I carve out small unapologetically lazy moments. Sitting with a cup of tea or coffee, staring out the window, or just lying on the couch doing absolutely nothing. And guess what? Those moments have become the secret weapon to my productivity.
Here’s the thing: Rest isn’t the enemy of action—it’s the fuel. When you create space to pause, you give your mind clarity, your body a chance to recharge, and your soul room to breathe.
So, if slowing down feels impossible, maybe it’s time to rethink what rest can do for you. This week, I challenge you to practice the art of doing nothing. Start small—a few minutes here and there—and see how it changes the way you show up in your life and leadership.
What’s one way you’ll hit pause this week?
Cheers to PB&J and lazy moments,
Out there happening to the world,
Lisa
Feel free to hit reply anytime to share your stories, ask questions, or celebrate your latest win—I’d love to hear from you!